Surrender your pain so that it can continue to be healed. We know you hurt. See that emotions are temporary.
Emotions need to flow and go. According to Eckhart Tolle in A New Earth, the “pain body” (what I would call the subconscious mind and also karma) recreates traumatic events so that we can finally process the pain that was too overwhelming to feel earlier in our lives. When we find ourselves releasing this pain, then we are at last free from it. All addiction is a fearful attempt to keep this process from happening. It is the expression of this pain that heals us at last. Our ability to access joy and pleasure is connected to our ability to access our unpleasant emotions. If we are numb to our pain, we remain numb to our pleasure and our purpose as well.
Feeling emotions is different from unleashing our emotions on others.